Feeling anxious

Hi Clare,

B12 deficiency can cause depression so it may be that with more treatment you will begin to feel better. I found that dealing with cancer caused me an awful lot of anxiety, particularly when my husband was diagnosed six months after me. In fact I would go as far to say that for me it was worse than dealing with the cancer.

 Do mention it to your doctor if your symptoms don’t improve, If you can talk to someone about how you feel it will certainly help.

love Luce X 

Hi Luce

Thanks for your response. X

I haven't spoken to anyone about the cancer since I was diagnosed. I have been the strong one trying not to worry anybody.

I have told hubby that I'm very anxious and I do not feel like myself and he can see that I often hold back tears but he's no good with that sort of thing. 

I don't think seeing the GP will help. I'm sure he'll just prescribe something and I already feel quite doppy with the B12 deficiency most days. 

Thanks for your support and advice 

Sending love

Clare

Aprildaisies75. Hi Clare. Sorry to hear you are feeling a bit down in the dumps, but it is understandable. Your body has been using all the available energy to fight against the trauma it has gone through. Having a B12 deficiency doesn't help and reduces the little energy you have. All this contributes to our mental health and we don't think straight. I had 6 initial B12 jabs and it picked me up enormously. This gave me the momentum to get fit again and start on some projects that kept my mind off things.

In the early days, I tried to put on a brave face and try and deal with it myself. Then one day I caught my wife crying and realised it was not just me affected by this. It affects the whole family. I then became open and honest with everyone and even used a lot of humour to describe the indignities we go through. I found this really helped both me and the family. I hope you feel better soon. Best wishes.

Hi rily

Thank you for your response 

I have used humour a lot it puts others at ease. 

I'm just not an emotional or anxious person and feel like I just want to keep to myself most days. All the pretending to be ok is exhausting. 

I have a lunch date tomorrow (hopefully in the sunshine) with my colleagues, it's gonna be tough but I'm gonna have to force myself to go, I know it will make me feel better. 

I honestly believe this darned pandemic isnt helping any of us. I've been working from home now since last March and have become quite used to my own company. 

Thanks for making me feel like I'm not just being pathetic. 

Sending love

Clare 

Aprildaisies75. Clare. Try not to feel like that. It is a phase many of us go through. I am now over 7 years down the line and, touch wood, still clear. I am now 70 and have just finished building a fence and double gates for one daughter and a large corner garden bench for the other. Now contemplating redecorating our hall and two flights of stairs (not as grand as it sounds). I will be spending the next few weeks walking on planks at height. I only say this to let you know there is a future. Best wishes.

Clare, you are so NOT being pathetic. This forum is the perfect place to let down the mask away from family and friends for folk like you and me who usually act the strong one. Have you looked on the B12 group, B12 Deficiency Support Group | Vitamin B12 deficiency Charity Support Group, maybe you will find more useful info about your emotional symptoms. Zinc deficiency also causes low mood and is very common, you can buy a simple self test kit [taste based] to guide you on that. B12 and zinc are both often gained from meat in your diet, although it's not totally simple, but if you don't eat much/any meat it would be easy to be low in both. Hope you feel better soon but whatever happens we will all be willing you better here. 

Kind regards and a virtual hug, Denby

Hi rily

Thanks for your message

It sounds like you are a very busy person...ha ha 

Sending love 

Clare

Hi Denby 

Hope you are well, thanks for your support.

The sunshine is returning next week so hopefully that will make us all feel a little brighter.

I've booked tickets for the zoo this weekend and booked a haircut for next week. Ha ha. I know it sounds daft but that should make me feel better.

Going back to work and interacting with people and getting some routine back should also make me feel better so I don't know why I'm so anxious about it. 

I have a nurse appointment on Friday, I will mention to her how I am feeling and contact the counselling service when I get back to work. 

Have a lovely Bank Holiday 

Sending love

Clare