Hello everyone!
I always come here when im stressed or worried, I feel like you all have a calming effect on my mind.
my mum has stage 3b t4a N0 M0 pure SCC - she has done two rounds of cis/gem and had her midway scan yesterday.
The tumour at the last scan hadnt actually gone into any other organs but it had gone out of the last layer of the bladder and was pressing against my mums vagina wall hence why the T4a grading.
I have been an absolute wreck since this diagnoses, I have lost over 1st from being sick and not eating.
I am so worried from this scan showing that the cancer will have grown because of the lack of response this type of cancer has to chemo so its also been playing on my mind that the MDT have wasted time doing the chemo and not gone straight to surgery, and then I worry what if this cancer has now grown to the point where surgery is not on the table, my brain is just going round and round of the what ifs and then blaming the doctors for wasting time on chemo....
sorry to always come here and dump my worries and stresses
Hello worried_daughter . No need for any apologies. We are all familiar with waiting and not knowing. It may be a bit early to see if the Gem/Cis is having any effect. Chemo doesn't have an immediate impact. It works gradually and takes time. It continues working after treatment finishes. If it comes to surgery, then the chemo usually helps things. I hope mum feels better soon. Best wishes.
