Dad won’t tell us anything

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Hi,

My dad was diagnosed with bladder cancer 15 years ago and has always been very secretive about his treatment. He gives us as a family the very bare basics of information and not let anyone come to appointments with him.

He has had many reoccurrences over the years and around 6 years ago had to have one of his kidneys removed due to the cancer spreading. I know that he’s been told that his cancer is no longer curable only treatable.

He’s had his usual follow up appointments recently along with several scans and has today had an appointment with his consultant and told us that they’ve found a shadow on his remaining kidney and he’s got to have a small operation to look at it.

He won’t offer any more information. I’m worried as to what this might mean for him having already had to have one kidney removed.

Can anyone offer advice or guidance on what to expect please.

Thanks x