The changing face of the world we live in

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Hi everyone hope you have all had a good Easter weekend 

So going to try not to go on to much about this my uncle who is only 9 years older than myself my Dads youngest sibling is a drug addict and of the most severe kind Heroin so he knows I’ve had a cancer diagnosis and knows that it’s nothing to be taken lightly he’s been moved into some supported housing close to my home and is constantly round can I grab a meal with you tonight no problem have you got a spare few quid Ste no chance the way I’ve had to speak to has been nothing short of shocking regarding money and he just can’t understand why I have behaved the way I have toward him regarding money when as a society did it all go so wrong for certain people for them to question the decision of person who has had a nasty shock regarding their health I wouldn’t dream of it if the roles where reversed and like a say I’m 9 years younger than what he is people who have a good moral compass are on the decline these days and this forum has been a godsend for me as I see most people have much the same views as myself 

Ste 

  • Hi Ste, my heart goes out to you man, this all sounds very stressful. Is it something you can share with your dad ? I hope everything calms down and you can concentrate on taking care of you . all the best x

    Much love Angela x

  • Hi Angela 

    unfortunately my Dad is no longer with us he passed away 8 years ago but he had suffered the same behaviour before his Death the constant being pecked for money infact I blame my uncle a little bit as he added to my Dads Stresses in life which ultimately contributed to him not visiting the doctors until it was to late and he was facing a terminal cancer diagnosis 

    Ste 

  • Oh Ste I am so sorry about your dad. I hope I didnt upset you by my suggestion. It must be very hard dealing with someone who is a drug addict, I wish i had some answers for you , but its not something I have had to deal with. I wish you all the best and hope you find a solution x

    Much love Angela x

  • Hi Angela  

    Of Course you havnt upset me I like to talk about my Dad he was a kind hearted soul 

    Ste 

  • How lovely to have wonderful memories and feelings about your dad Ste . 

    Much love Angela x

  • Hi Ste,I used to look after Heroin addicts and your situation sounds stressful.Does your uncle have a support worker of some kind ? Jane

  • Hi Jane 

    yes he just recently been allocated one who I have spoke to briefly and she asked me to get him to get my details which I gave him and we could then discuss his case in more detail as he would be putting me down as next of kin I’m yet to hear from her the problem is with him he thinks he’s smarter than he is and can pull the wool over peoples eyes but I can see straight through his lies which just enrages me further 

    Ste 

  • Hi Ste,You might be able to forge a better relationship with her help.If he has been addicted a long time he is bound to have some challenging behaviour.Addiction is horrible for all concerned.

  • Hi Jane 

    yes that’s the plan I’ve seen his behaviour for far to long but as I am nearest to him it’s my address he visits I’ve told him straight either change or improve or your not welcome I’ve got my own issues to deal with I’ll help with the everyday normal things but I refuse to fund your habit he’s never worked and expects family members to support him financially and many have over the years including my Dad and His Mum and I watched what it did to them both it’s a well known fact that addicts destroy families and this is definitely true with my Dads family I’ve just come back from visiting my Aunt she left our hometown to escape him I just put it on him me and say are you not ashamed of yourself coming bothering your nephew who has not long had the shock of his life because I know I would be pal well I just wouldn’t do it 

    Ste 

  • Yes it is the sad truth,same with alcoholism.I lived with an alcoholic and I’ve blocked out a lot of those memories as they were so unhappy.