Hi all
Had my consultant appt yesterday, good news and bad really , my staging for the cancer is more a T3 than T4 and when they do the op the consultant said he will take uterus, felopian tubes, lymph nodes, bit of bladder and some section of vagina.
That was a lot I did ask did he want my shoes as well ??
He reiterated again it was a life threatening operation and recovery is slow. He did say that if the cancer has touched the urethra then it has gone terminal , it's shocking to hear but he has to tell me everything, I'm trying to be rational about it. He said he wanted another CT scan and another cyscosopy under general and a fitness test but otherwise all systems go for the op , and I'm ready whatever needs to be done I'm ok with and I will learn to cope .
I didn't feel like I could ask this , for many reasons really , 1 I had my partner with me , 2 I'm quite reserved person 3 my consultant was a man 4 I felt like with all I'd been told in that meeting my question was this and 5 I kind of wanted to speak to someone who had been there and done that, sort of thing, and a woman .
That said my question was ..with him taking some of my vagina away ..what does that mean for my sex life? My partner, will I feel things differently?, I'm embarrassed writing this but feel only you guys who know , can tell me the reality. Thank you in advance for any answers and hope I haven't embarrassed or offended anyone xx
