Hi all
Had my consultant appt yesterday, good news and bad really , my staging for the cancer is more a T3 than T4 and when they do the op the consultant said he will take uterus, felopian tubes, lymph nodes, bit of bladder and some section of vagina.
That was a lot I did ask did he want my shoes as well ??
He reiterated again it was a life threatening operation and recovery is slow. He did say that if the cancer has touched the urethra then it has gone terminal , it's shocking to hear but he has to tell me everything, I'm trying to be rational about it. He said he wanted another CT scan and another cyscosopy under general and a fitness test but otherwise all systems go for the op , and I'm ready whatever needs to be done I'm ok with and I will learn to cope .
I didn't feel like I could ask this , for many reasons really , 1 I had my partner with me , 2 I'm quite reserved person 3 my consultant was a man 4 I felt like with all I'd been told in that meeting my question was this and 5 I kind of wanted to speak to someone who had been there and done that, sort of thing, and a woman .
That said my question was ..with him taking some of my vagina away ..what does that mean for my sex life? My partner, will I feel things differently?, I'm embarrassed writing this but feel only you guys who know , can tell me the reality. Thank you in advance for any answers and hope I haven't embarrassed or offended anyone xx
Hi Podperson
I had a different surgery, but nonetheless very major, and my details are on my profile if you click on my name. I’m not able to comment about sex will feel afterwards for you as I had my whole vagina removed, so can’t ever have sex again, but I can say that a major surgery does exhaust you completely and takes time to recover from. But it’s very possible!
I was also embarrassed to ask questions, so you’re not alone in that-you wont have embarrassed or offended anyone here, as everyone’s used to discussions like this so don’t worry. I hope replies from the other ladies have helped to reassure you.
Sarah xx
Aww..thank you so muchTinkerbell221 it’s very kind of you to say that, and I appreciate this SO much. I’ve had loads go on since then but the main thing is that I’m still here!
Sarah xx
I'm so sorry to hear you got some pretty awful news, and have to undergo such a major operation. But don't give up and do what needs to be done and keep on fighting.
Not sure what else to say really but I'm sure everyone here wishes for the best outcome for you and people are always here for advice or just support.
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