Hello all,
My mum is 75, she has been diagnosed with bladder cancer after a fight to get the hospital to take it seriously. She was given a CT scan. The Consultant can to see her on his rounds while she was on her own and told her it was bladder cancer. She has dementia, she was confused and video called me in tears. She told me it was bowel cancer, this made no sense. She was very upset that she was on her own and the consultant was so cold!
I live 90 minutes away so I spoke to a nurse on the video chat and requested a doctor call me. A lovely doctor called (not the consultant) She explained that my mum has bladder cancer. She told me it's bad, it's spread to other organs and lymph nodes. I asked if it's terminal, she said yes but they can't give a prognosis or stage formally until a biopsy has been done. I was calm and controlled but once I got of the phone, I was a mess.
Today I spoke to my mother, she is in a lot of pain, they have given her and feels like she is sat on glass. They have given her co-dydramol, I told her I'd buy her a ring/donut cushion. She said she doesn't think it's worth it, she may not be here by the time it arrives!
I'm heartbroken! I feel so lost, angry, hurt, etc. It's affecting me badly. I lost my dad when I was 16, he was 38 and died from asthma. I don't want to accept it's terminal. I can't cope, it's breaking me!
I want to know if we have weeks, months, years. I want to know what I can do to help. I feel desperate!
