After surgery

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Hi all 

Not been on here for a bit trying to get my head round everything. I had my surgery to remove my bladder at the end of may surgeon said everything went ok. So had a scan went to get my results from surgeon he said they was a solitary necrotic node that looked suspicious. So back to the oncologist I went for her to tell me that my cancer is now incurable and I would be having a 5 day course of palliative radiotherapy which I have completed. Now I'm just trying to get myself back into a better head space. Has anyone got any ideas. 

Thanks and sorry for the rant

Sonia

  • My husband had the same & had chemotherapy.  He was not told it was incurable,  3 yrs later he is still well. He has CT every 3 months. I cannot imagine the shock of being told its incurable. All I can think.of is do everything you have always wanted to do but put off. Tell everyone who you love that you love them  don't let this get you down. Fight every step. Make the most of every minute.  A man I know has beaten 4 times cancer at stage 4. He eats really healthy & enjoys his family & friends. 

    Much love to you & yours. 

    Kimdav

  • Hi kimdav

    Thanks I'm glad to hear your husband is well. I intend on doing that. It's hard letting family and friends know but il get there. 

    Love to you and yours

    Sonia

  • Hi Sonia, I cannot imagine the shock of being told that and trying to get your head around it. I don't have any great wisdom that will help you, I just wanted to say my heart goes out to you and keep fighting. Will you be having anymore scans or treatment ? Good luck to you 

    Much love Angela x

  • Hi Halofan

    I just finished radiotherapy then at the minute my next appointment is with oncology consultant beginning of December so I'm hoping il have scan just before that. So it's just one day at a time till then. 

    Sonia

  • What an awful shock for you.  Incurable does not necessarily mean untreatable, hence the radiotherapy. Hopefully you will still have plenty of time ahead of you to enjoy with family and friends. None of know what will happen tomorrow. Very best wishes.