Consultation Update

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Thought I’d better get this written down while I’m still in shock and it all seems surreal.  Apparently the team meeting to discuss my results isn’t until tomorrow as they only came through yesterday but my situation is serious with the added need for speed as my kidney is not draining.  The cancer is T2b G3.  Firstly I need to have a CT scan to see if it’s on my lungs. If it is there are no treatment options but he doesn’t think it will be as my pelvis and lymph nodes are clear and it would generally travel upwards. 
Then I need a chest drain followed by 3 cycles of chemo 3 weeks apart and then I have the option of radiotherapy or an op to remove my bladder,uterus, ovaries and appendix.  If I have the radiotherapy I will have to keep the kidney drain permanently. If it doesn’t work I won’t have the option to remove my bladder. If I have the op and it doesn’t work I still have the option of the radiotherapy. So provided my CT scan shows no spread to the lungs, I think the only sensible option is the operation to have all my bits removed. I won’t need the kidney drain then. 
so that’s it in a nutshell. I don’t know what I was hoping for or expecting but I don’t think it was this. It’s all just so surreal, I don’t know when it’s going to sink in. 

  • Such a lot for you to take in xx you must be mentally exhausted... many on here have so much knowledge and experience about this operation so I will leave it for their thoughts ..when I had my rigid cystoscopy  last week I had prepared myself to be told I would need my bladder removed and this possibility is still with me .. all this has happened to you so quickly  without a chance to think about anything but you will get through this you have so much support and love coming your way and this time next year you'll be looking back at this time and realise how strong you were xx take care thinking about you love Tina xx

  • Thanks Tina. Yes I do feel exhausted. Hopefully I’ll be able to sleep tonight. I didn’t get much last night x

  • I hope you do the nights are the worse time for overthinking everything xx this will not be easy for you but with strength and determination you can do it .. you seem to have come to a decision in your mind and from here on things will start to move for you .. as everyone on here seems to say once a plan is put in place you strangely enough feel more positive and accept what needs to be done .. the not knowing  causes so much anxiety  and worry xx take care I'll speak soon in my prayers love Tina xx

  • Yes my minds definitely made up to have the op. I think waiting for the results of my CT scan will be the worst thing. I don’t even have a date for it yet, but depending on those results, all treatment options may be off the table. 

  • Hi . Sorry the news was not what you hoped for and a lot to take in. Firstly, try not to read anything in the CT scan as this is purely routine and just precautionary to rule anything else out. It's always annoying when they get these appointments in the wrong order. It would have been better to get your consultation after the MDT meeting and then you would have been given better information. These are the things we have to put up with. If they propose your next step is chemo, then this gives you a lot of time to consider your options and get as much info as possible to help with your decision. One step at a time. Best wishes.

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  • Hi stritty,
    I really feel for you as I was in a similar situation last year.
    Stage 2, Grade 3. Waiting for results of Chest CT scan to see if it had spread. Shock. Surreal.
    My kidneys were fine though so one less thing than you are facing.

    CT scan results on chest turned out ok, but was a very worrying time indeed.
    Bladder was removed and replaced with a Neo bladder last June. But stoma would have been fine too. 
    Just glad to get the cancer out of my body. 

    Happy to report that a year on regular scans are showing the all clear. 
    Whatever decisions you make will be the right ones for you. But I could not be happier with all aspects of my recovery having decided radical Cystectomy was my way forward.

    Feel free to ask any questions to this great bunch.

    Someone will have been in your shoes.

    cheers
    Chasam

  • Thanks Chasam. I had a pretty rough night mainly mulling over how I was going to tell my 93 year old Mum. I got that out of the way early this morning on the phone, gave her some time to take it in and then popped round to see her and go through it all again. It went far better than I expected. Had a call from the hospital with my CT appointment and that’s happening next Tuesday so they aren’t hanging about. 
    I have made up my mind to have the chemo and the surgery if my CT results are clear. At least then I’ll still have the radiotherapy option if that doesn’t work.  Hopefully the temporary chest drain will give me a bit of stoma practice before the op. Did you have the chemo prior to the op and if so how did it make you feel? I wasn’t offered the choice of a neo bladder. 

  • Hi hope you are feeling bit better Blush when you have your ct scan you will feel more at ease when results come through.. I found out I had a anuerysm in my heart through the ct scan no inkling at all I had it up until then .. I was diagnosed with bladder cancer and anuerysm  about same time ..really shook me up at first  but learning not to dwell on it nothing will change so trying my very best to keep going as before.. hard sometimes but I keep trying to be positive xx I have tried hard to make some life changes for the benefit of my health as I was plodding along with life doing as I pleased not ever needing or considering the circumstances.. I found myself having to phone for ct results often but never had much response I wish they could have let me know the results sooner it would have saved me so much anxiety xx take care and try to keep on with your blog you are also helping others dealing with this journey as well as yourself xx thinking about you love Tina xx 

  • Thanks Tina. What a shock finding out about your aneurysm on top of everything else!  I must admit I’ve been Googling today if it’s possible to have 2 different cancers at once and I kind of knew the answer already. So I’ve been thinking even if the bladder cancer hasn’t gone to my lung it doesn’t mean that there’s not one there already. 
    I had a brilliant nights sleep last night which always helps and I’ve had the family round today which always makes me smile. Now though I just want to know more about this chemo cycle and more about the kidney drain. I know the kidney drain will be good practice for when/if I have my bladder removed but so far I’ve only come across one video of a girl showing how she managed with her nephrostomy and it looked pretty horrendous to me. I got loads of info given to me on Thursday when I went for my consultation but nothing there about nephrostomy or stomas. 
    best wishes Linda

  • Hi Linda,I feel for you,that’s a lot to take in.It sounds as if you have made the right decision for you and everyone here will offer advice and support.Regarding stoma information once you decide on it you will get to meet your stoma nurses.I met the team at my local hospital first.They explained what would happen and I watched a video about having a urostomy.Shortly before the surgery I went back and had the area where the stoma would go drawn in marker pen.The operation was done in Bristol and the stoma nurses there taught me how to care for the stoma.Love and best wishes Jane x