Trying to help a family member

Hi.. welcome to the forum..im sorry to hear your friend is going through this..

My treatment was 28 days of radiotherapy.. day 1 I had chemo infusion then tablets form twice  a day for the remaining 28 days..

The days to go fast and your friend will be extremely tired.. I started to feel very sore from about week 4.. and the 2 to 3 weeks after treatment ends was very painful for me..but it does get better..

Make sure your friend stocks up on water wipes and toilet tissues are to rough.. I invested in a sitz bath yo fit onto toilet for all of my toilet visits... I also got a shewee..

I watchlisted lots of things on netflix and prime so the middle of night when I was restless I could watch them..

Tell your friend to rest as much as they can.. and maybe they can join this forum.. this forum really got me through some very dark day.. without all the lovely people I really would have struggled..

Please pass on my best wishes to your friend  

Hello Snaps 

I am sorry to hear about your relative but touched that you are thinking of ways to help when s/he lives so far away from you.

As Squeak says, the most taxing time for most of us is towards the end of treatment and for two or three weeks afterwards.  My husband waited on me hand and foot but I should warn you that the chemo/radiotherapy really affected what I could eat.  My normal diet went right out of the window and I had strong cheese on toast with onion and mustard - every single day!  I also topped up with EnsurePlus, a drink that has all the nutrients needed that is commonly used in nursing homes.

If this relative knows you are planning to visit it would be a good idea to keep in close contact with them, they may be delighted to have your support even though they may not be up for long chats.

Best of luck.

Irene xx