Newly diagnosed

Hello JustSue 

I am so sorry to hear of your diagnosis, we all know that feeling on hearing a cancer diagnosis only too well.  But you have definitely come to the right place for advice and support, all of us have been through or are going through treatment and having lots of tips and coping strategies, so please let us know as soon as you have your treatment plan in place.

It is an absolute rollercoaster in the early days when you are operating in a fog of terror and disbelief whilst attending multiple appointments, investigations and scans.  There is a lot going on in the background before deciding on the final plan, but I can honestly say that for nearly all of us, once treatment started, we started to feel a bit more hopeful and in control of what was happening to us.

What you have to bear in mind is that although the standard treatment has side effects, they certainly don't all come at once and not for probably two - three weeks into treatment.  And the severity of the side effects differs from person to person too, there are some (but I don't think many) who were able to carry on working and with their normal daily life.  Fatigue (especially later) may influence how much you are able to take on, and now is the time to rally your outside resources for help with the little ones. 

I have never ridden but doubt if I could have especially towards the end as as my sores were quite bad, but there was another horse rider on here, I can't remember their name but I am hoping if they are still on the forum they can help.  I seem to remember they were riding very soon after.

I was fortunate in that I was retired and didn't have any of your worries, but you certainly aren't the only young Mum on the forum who had to navigate this.

Sending a huge hug, and please remember we are here to offer support at any time should you need it.

Irene xx

Hi Sue, and welcome to the forum

Yes, that diagnosis is overwhelming at first, but as Irene has said once you actually get started on your treatment, you will feel much more that things are under control and that you are making some progress.

You will probably be fine with the children and the horse, certainly at first,  and I too remember the lady who rode here and I think she did okay, maybe with a bit of a break. Many of us find a little moderate exercise like walking is really beneficial, so going to see your horse and potter about might be just what you need.

I think if you can recruit some friends and family to help, you will find things much easier especially in the last couple of weeks when you might just feel really fatigued, so you might find it helpful to think about how you might plan these things, but don't try to anticipate too much until you have more details about your treatment. 

Please come back and let us know how you get on. I wish you all the best xxx

Thank you. Yes will pop back on and keep this thread up to date. I’ve got my Amazon list started with products to try and help and I had started moisturising. These forums have really helped to settle my nerves. Thank you