Hi. Its been about 3.5 years or so since my treatment for stage 3 AC that had also spread into 2 lymph nodes.( treated with radiotherapy and chemotherapy) . I have just had my routine check up with my oncologist and after the dreaded examination I was expecting the usual NED. She said my lymph nodes in my groin appear quite enlarged. She requested an emergency Ct scan. I hadnt even gotten home when I had a call from the hospital saying could I come in on Friday ( my oncology appointment was on the Wednesday) . Obviously I said yes and although i was grateful for it being so fast, I also wont deny i was a little scared. I have been having pains in that area but tbh I am always in pain in my hip and pelvic area so although it has felt a bit sharper i haven't really thought it as a change. I went for the ct scan then the following Tuesday ( last week) I received a letter requesting me to go for an anal sphincter mri scan which I have tomorrow.
At my appointment where consultant found the enlarged lymph nodes she did say it could be thickening from the radiotherapy or even an infection that my body is trying to fight but they need to investigate further. I keep telling myself that it is going to be ok. I am a bit worried that I have been asked to go for the mri after ct . I have not had a scan for 15mths but all my physical examinations have been ok so I am remaining positive.
I struggle with my bowels and bladder still.. I still bleed when I open my bowels. I also have accidents as the radiotherapy has damaged my sphincter. The colorectal surgeon was hoping with exercises it would improve but it hasn't. I said i feel it sometimes can affect my quality of life as in I always have to know where theres a toilet, I wont have anything to eat if I am in a place where I wouldnt be able to go to the toilet easily as many times if i need to go i need to go . Also i cannot hold wind in either and apart from being embarrassed, i sometimes pass mucus too. He asked if my life was affected to the point I would need a stoma as that is my only option. I am left thinking is it affected enough to go through more treatment or do I just carry on as i am..??. Anyway thats another story lol ...I just need to get these scan results first then can look at anything else another time.
Just wanted to write it down. I feel that no one really understands how you feel unless you have experienced it.
Thanks for listening guys x
Elaine
Hello Trv22 I just woke up and wanted to write to you. I have my last treatment today so am still quite new here.
I had a stoma fitted before I started treatment and was devastated when they told me. I can honestly say it is an absolute cinch. Lubby (my son named him!) Is 2cm, works perfectly and.I have had no pain, incontinence etc. I have found a whole community of people online who are supportive, open and living life without fear of accidents! You learn quick what makes you pass wind and avoid those foods if heading out! Before treatment I was super active (day 28 now and walking is a bit tender!) and am.determined to get back to fitness. Happy to chat privately or share the WhatApp group details with you - so many cancer survivors and thrivers on there too, plus women who have had significant operations who make my stoma op seem tiny - so inspiring.
On the nodes, how wonderful they have moved so fast so you get answers quick. Speed and knowledge is everything - without it, the unknown is so hard. There is a big difference between a reactive enlarged node and a cancerous node - I had enlarged and reactive due to inflammation.
They taking every care which is wonderful. I will allow the many others on here who I know have more experience than me to comment more but you are very much in my thoughts, and I am certain you will get answers quickly, Willow xxx
Hi Trv22 ,
Firstly I’m sorry that you’re going through all of this worry right now although it’s really impressive how quickly your oncologist has organised further investigations. Hopefully you’ll get the results just as quickly, I’ve everything crossed that the results are all negative.
Regarding consideration of an elective stoma, I spoke with my oncologist a few years ago about supporting people here that were still having ongoing bowel issues some years down the line from treatment & his response was the same, he said to advise them to have a conversation with their Dr’s about an elective stoma as in certain cases it can hand you your life back in situations where bowel issues are chronically limiting how you lead your life.
Nicola
Hello Elaine,
I am sorry to hear you have hit a small bump in your road of recovery, but it does sound like your oncologist is right on the ball. Hopefully it will simply be thickening from the radiotherapy; my oncologist did tell me recurrence after two years is pretty rare, but even if there is something going on in your lymph nodes they have detected it quickly. I have my fingers and toes crossed for you, so please keep us posted.
I don't have a stoma but many on this forum do, and overall they seem to cope really well and in some cases it has completely improved their quality of life, so if it is something you are considering, I'm sure there will be lots of support and help here.
I wish you all the very best xxx
HelloTrv22
After a cancer diagnosis any sort of investigation is sure to send you into a spin and you are really having a hard time, what with your ongoing symptoms but also facing fresh investigations. However, your oncologist really does sound on the ball and just playing it safe; I know that isn't much consolation to you but if (and it is a very big IF) they find anything they are acting very quickly.
And the ongoing symptoms - yes, yes and yes! I think it is a common theme on here of the after effects of radiotherapy and how we cope. I had an elective stoma due to anal stenosis almost two years ago, and whilst it isn't perfect life is a lot better than it it was, I am not longer in fear about being caught short whilst out and about. And I think I have bladder stenosis too, multiple loo visits especially during the night, not to mention painful hips.
All that said, it is good to here that you are feeling positive and I am hoping that very soon you will be back telling us that there is nothing going on at all.
Big hug
Irene xx
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