Hi all,
Sorry for this rant and I dont mean to sound as mean as this will probably sound.
I am supporting my sister who has breast cancer which has spread to her bones. She has extensive bone mets. This was diagnosed from the beginning of this rollercoaster back in January 2017. Her pain management is under control and so far since May 2017 her 3 monthly scans show she is stable. She used to have her own little cleaning business and looked after my son who is now 9 whilst I go to work. To start with as a family we suggested she gave up her cleaning business and we paid her more money to help her out financially. We pay double what a normal childminder would. We found out recently my husband and I were the only ones helping financially. We have 2 older brothers who do nothing to help.
My issue is my sister doesnt seem to want to help herself
She is 45 and I am 42. I know it must be unbearable going through this. I take time off for every appointment so she doesnt go through it on her own. She got married in September 2017 but ever since then she seems more than happy for everyone to do everything for her. She doesnt go out anymore. She constantly decorates at home. It's my money she is using to pay towards her rent and bits and pieces at home whilst I cant afford anything for myself. I want to see her happy but she just isn't helping herself at all. I am having to constantly chase her to see if she has called the hospital for this and that. I always seem the bad guy.
It doesn't help that a great friend of mine has returned to work after being off for a year with treatment for lung cancer. My friend is also terminal but is back at work. If I suggest my sister finding a little job she starts saying she had too many appointments (she doesnt).
My sister is more than capable of a job and it's not just about a job she just sits at home all day till she gets my son from school.
I know I sound selfish but I would have thought she would get out and make the most of things. I've even suggest volunteering. She says it's a good idea then does nothing about it.
Am so frustrated.
Sorry if I have come across a selfish sister I am truly not and just want her to get out and live whilst she still can.
Thanks for reading and sorry its such a long rant.
