Dad diagnosed with liver cancer

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 My dad was diagnosed with liver cancer. We were told that it was advanced and that it is terminal. He only has a few months due to the spread to lungs, bowels and stomach. I am 22 and my sister 18. I don’t know how to cope with this situation as my nanna passed away in August from endometriosis. This was her 2nd time going through chemotherapy, radiotherapy and immunotherapy. She was told in July there was nothing else that could be done. I feel so lost with what is happening to my dad as it was unexpected and I am not ready to lose him (as selfish as that sounds). I don’t know what to do or how to feel. He started feeling ill 3 months ago and the doctors didn’t listen to what he had to say and kept brushing it off. I’m so angry but so sad and lost at the same time. 

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    I am Brian, one of the Community-champions here on the online Community. I have just noticed your post has gone unanswered. I have a different cancer myself, however by me replying, your post will be "bumped up" to the top of the page and I hope seen and replied to by other members of the group.

    For local support do you have a Macmillan Centre or a "Maggie's" you could call into for a chat. There's always our Support Line too on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days).

    Best wishes - Brian.

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  • Hey  ,

    I'm 25 and looking after my mom with ovarian cancer. The doctors also failed her a few times throughout our 1.5year fight with this terrible disease. I understand how you feel as I feel the same way. I have a younger brother who doesn't help because he has to work and study so me and mom are mostly on our own. 

    Shifting the roles of mother and daughter was very hard for me. I used to be very dependent on her and still am... Mostly emotionally. I can't take the thought that I will be on my own some day. 

    The good and the bad thing is that time passes one day at a time and we just have to get through what is happening right now and then think about the next thing. Someone said to me (as i am a chronic worrier) that 90% of the things I worry about aren't going to happen and so I shouldn't waste so much time trying to guess what will happen but instead try and be present and calm for her. Which is a very hard thing to do when your only parent's life is hanging on a few threads.... But it's good advice that I still try to achieve.

    Do you have anyone helping you? How is your dad feeling in this situation? 

    Sending you big virtual hugs.... 

    Rada

  • Sending love - that is very hard to face that whilst you are still young. My dad is also terminal and I am struggling with it, it feels so unfair and cruelly.