Morning, well where do I start !! How is it possible to have this happen?
In October my twin brother (we are 55) called my sister and I from USA to tell us he had prostate cancer, once after the initial shock had passed he was lucky he opted for the surgery we flew out to visit all is good and he is cancer free
In February after going on holiday with my sister and our best friend, my sister had a cough that she couldn't shake off, she had xrays steroids antibiotics nothing seemed to work. Then she was given the diagnosis of terminal lung cancer, treatable not curable with a possibility of 12/18 mths ideally. She had a 3 month treatment plan starting with chemo and then immunotherapy. She is now under MacMillan with a possible 3-4 weeks, she was given this devastating news on 13/05 as I was diagnosed an hour earlier with breast cancer. My heart is breaking and I have so many emotions, my sister is my life she is strong and confident and the positive attitude one. I want to be with her 24/7 ,but she has a partner who is amazing, I know it's selfish but I always thought I'd be the one looking after her!! I just feel pushed out, she would be the one supporting me through my diagnosis and looking after me I just want to do the same. HELP I'm losing my head.
Hi Lacey
I’m Steph and I’m part of the Online Community Team here at Macmillan. May I wish you another warm welcome to the Community, although I’m sorry that circumstances bring you here.
I was so sorry to read about everything you're going through at the moment with cancer diagnoses in the family. That sounds like an awful lot for you to be dealing with right now. Am I right in understanding that following your brothers prostate cancer, that both you and your sister have received a cancer diagnosis?
It's natural to have lots of different emotions when you have so many issues and feelings to cope with. I hope you will find it helpful to be able to share in the Community. Whilst you’re waiting for responses here, I hope it might be helpful if I offer you some further information and support from the Community and Macmillan.
Please do consider joining our breast cancer forum here. It sounds like you are putting everything into supporting your sister, but it's important that you have the right support in place for yourself too.
If you're struggling to know what you can do for your sister, or need help managing your feelings around her shock diagnosis, Macmillan has information here to help support you when your loved one has cancer.
If you’d like to talk anything through or need further support I’d really encourage you to get in touch with our Support Line. Our Support Line teams are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat. They are here for you if you have questions or for whenever you feel ready to talk things though.
Please do keep posting on the forum with any updates, questions or just about how you’re feeling. You might also find it helpful to browse the forums and read through other people’s experiences.
I hope you find the support you’re looking for. Please do let us know if you have any questions or need further help with anything at all. I hope the Community helps to show you that you don’t have to go through this alone.
Kindest Regards,
Hi Lacey
Thank you for the update, I am hoping ,members of the forum might advise you further.
Your feelings are valid, but there's no way of knowing why your sister is not letting you in right now.
Could you try opening up the conversation with your sister so you can both talk about how you're feeling and what you need from each other. She might be worried about how you are coping with your own diagnosis. Or she might just need a little bit more time to process the news before feeling able to open up.
Sending big hugs and thinking of you.
