Hi everyone
I've been told we're losing my sweet 33 year old husband 's battle. Please could I get advice on either hospice or at home or a care home is better?
I want him to be at home but have been told it can be very hard to cope with as he deteriorates.
Any experiences? Particularly as a younger patient?
Thanks in advance
Hello Lalala123
I am so sorry to hear of your husbands cancer. It must be a difficult time for you both.
If you need to talk things through, please do give the Support Line a call. They are there from 8am-8pm daily. They will also be able to have a look to see what is available in your actual area.
I can understand that the choices to be made are difficult ones. I suppose it can depend on lots of factors and that what you may feel at one time, may change. I know from experience with friends and family that it is a very personal decision. It can also be important to consider where these services are and how close to home and family and friends.
I can understand your feeling that you would like to keep him at home and that can work for some people as long as the support is there.
I will pop a link below to some information on End of life care. In it there are some resources that I hope you will find helpful.
End of life | Macmillan Cancer Support
This section gives some information about being at home, care homes and hospices. It may be a starting point for thinking about the pros and cons for each.
Choosing where to die | Macmillan Cancer Support
I hope that you are getting plenty of support from your husbands team and the above links may give you some ideas to help you and your husband make the decisions that are right for you.
Please do remember that the Support Line is there if you need it.
I know this is a very difficult time and I hope that the links give a bit of information that helps with your decision.
Jane
