Hello all.
I'm still pretty new to this and most official guidance seems to be to try to be present and to live in the moment.
I have to admit to finding this really hard. Does anyone have any tips? I want me, my partner and family to still enjoy things as much as possible. But every time we do anything I can't stop thinking "this might be the last time we do x". Or when I see her at her happiest, usually with grandchildren, I can't help feel an overwhelming (in the truest meaning of the word) sense of pity and deep sadness when I look on.
I don't want to feel like this as I'm not bringing my best self to her but not sure quite how to overcome the feelings. I do try some breathing exercises most days but that is work in progress and isn't helping much at the moment.
Hi PS67
I managed to get on a living with less stress course with Maggies that really helped me, I was getting quite good at living in a dark future that I could not control and actually often imagining things worse that actually happened and that blocked me appreciating what we have.
Then there was an big accident locally and six people died on a construction site and in a sort of strange way that helped me realize that I still had my wife. It brought some sense to the saying - yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift and that is why we call it the present.
More recently I was at a friends funeral and the celebrant said that grief is the price we pay for love and that really struck a chord with me.
There is quite a good blog on here that might be helpful - coping with anticipatory grief.
<<hugs>>
Steve
