Hi
My sister was diagnosed with terminal metastasised bile duct cancer 11 days ago. She has been told she has 2-4 months. I'm trying to support her and our distraught 90 year old mother and know from when I lost my own daughter what torture this time of year can be for those facing challenges and/or dealing with past, current and indeed future losses.
While the focus is obvs on making memories, and this as nice an experience as possible for my so far still pretty healthy sister, I am painfully aware of all the 'last times' and tbh absolutely dreading the next week. Any and all advice and suggestions greatly received. Thanks
So sorry to read this. Is your sister able to eat? Perhaps share some lovely festive treats with her. My Mum isn’t eating very much at all right now. Food is such a big part of Christmas! We are planning to visit her and take over some board games just so that we can do something relatively normal with her. We will swap presents too which is another thing I had a major panic about a few days ago! I suppose all we can do is make the day as best as possible for us and our loved ones. I keep reminding myself that Christmas really is just one day amongst this journey we find ourselves on. Sending you the very best for the coming days x
Hi Prosperomuse So sorry to hear this heart breaking news , I think that all of you being together will be the most important thing you can do. I really hope you all have a nice relaxing day and enjoy each others company and games etc . You can always play Apache where you have a character you have to guess with a piece of paper stuck to your head , Try to think of joy XX All the Best Minmax
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