My Mum

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My Mum had endometrial cancer 4 years ago and has recently been told the cancer has returned in her liver and also pelvic area. We are waiting for biopsy results in order to discuss possible treatment. She is in hospital at the moment following a kidney problem and they are talking about sending her home, following a successful kidney procedure on Monday. I am concerned as she is still very poorly, hardly eating, suffering with sickness and has hardly been mobile whilst in hospital for almost 3 weeks. I have so many questions but feel a bit detached from all of this. I don’t know who to approach to ask for answers. 

  • Hi  

    It must be very worrying and upsetting that your mum is still very poorly after having a kidney procedure at the beginning of the week. However, it does sound positive that the procedure was successful.

    Probably the best person to talk to about your concerns would be your mum's consultant/doctor. Do you have their name? If so you could phone their secretary and explain that you'd like to arrange to speak to the consultant/doctor. Of course you would need your mum's permission to do this but I'm guessing she'd be okay with that.

    If you don't know who the consultant/doctor is then perhaps you could have a word with the main nurse on your mum's ward and she should be able to find out for you.

    ((hugs))

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  • Thank you - I have been able to speak to various people on the ward now, as well as the occupational therapy team. They are making plans for my Mum to go home, with support and aids in place. I am relived this is now the case. I am still very worried that she is hardly eating and also anxious about how she will manage when she goes home. 

  • My Mum is now home from hospital. Yesterday was a very challenging day. We have a care package in place but I am suddenly now feeling very responsible. It’s already affecting my sleep and relationships. This is not ‘just about the cancer’ - it’s all the other day to day stuff as well. Please tell me that others feel like this too?

  • Hi  

    That's great to read that your mum now has a care package in place and that she's out of hospital.

    I don't have any experience with looking after someone with cancer, as I was the one with cancer, so you're more likely to connect with others who do if you start a new post.

    Wishing both you and your mum all the best.

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