I've posted recently, but here's just a brief summary.
My Mum is in her early 70s and in a nursing home as she has a brain injury and hydrocephalus from a previous sub arachnoid haemorrhage from a ruptured annuerysm 3 years ago. She currently has a PV shunt to control the hydrocephalus.
About 3-4 weeks ago we were given the terrible diagnosis of a distal transverse bowel cancer tumour with significant metastases in the liver.
Given the current overall health of mum it's been decided by us as a family and an MDT meeting that palliative care is the chosen path without any chemotherapy or surgery etc. As it would be too much for mum to cope with. We've been told mums life expectancy is a couple of months.
She's in a fantastic nursing home and I've just visited. It looks like she has another UTI...last one was a few weeks ago and she's got pain which is burning.
After my visit I'm in pieces and so upset it's so hard to see Mum like this. I miss her so much and trying to spend as much time as I can with her 
I'm struggling so much
Hi xena1
Sorry to read about your mum though it sounds she is in the best place for her for now. My dad was in a care home at the end and it was very much a struggle to see him being looked after when he had been so strong. It does seem really cruel to miss the person they were while they are still there with us.
<<hugs>>
Steve
