Today was probably one of the hardest days we have had to go through. After my uncle was diagnosed with stage 4 primary liver cancer only 7 weeks ago (by chance on a visit to A&E) we have been caring for him at home and watched him deteriorated in such a short space of time. The last few days he has lost interest in eating and is so weak he can’t even stand to be able to use a commode. He still has the strength to crack a smile. But not being able to manage at home he has gone into a hospice today being told he will not be returning. They still believe he is in the last few days of life. Although he is drinking fluids and eating only a little maybe one or 2 spoonfuls he still responds to everyone who talks to him although very little energy. Is anyone else going or gone through this and if death came suddenly even if they were able to eat right up until the end? It’s the not knowing what’s going on that’s killing us. Whilst caring for him at home we were told weeks to survive then dropped down to days then went back to weeks and now back to days. It’s really played on my mind. Is the end near?
Hi Zara2468
Sorry to hear about what your are going through, yours is perhaps one of the most common questions but one that as you have discovered even the experts with all the information cannot really answer.
My dad suffered from a really long dragged out illness but ended up with about a days notice that he was really likely to die soon. My mum died totally out of the blue. Even 11 years later it is hard to work out which was harder.
<<hugs>>
Steve
