My grandad has terminal neck cancer and is in the last stages of his life. He got a tracheostomy and a feeding tube for palliative radiotherapy but is unable to care for the tracheostomy by himself, so hes living with my parents. In the past few weeks he has really declined and caring for him has become quite hard. He is very stubborn and independent. He has been very reluctant to get any help, but has accepted small things such as things to help him in the shower and stop pressure sores, but he wont accept a hospital bed or carers and it is really beginning to be a big issue. His neck and face are becoming very swollen which could be helped by a hospital bed and his mobility has severely reduced and getting him out of bed is very hard. He's very reluctant
Has anyone got any advice to get him to accept? Or how we can phrase it so that he knows he has to accept? He doesn't want to go into care and my mum (his main carer) doesn't want that either, but I'm concerned the longer we leave it he will have to go to some kind of care home. He hasn't been referred to palliative care or macmillan nurses because he says no and my mum wants to respect his wishes. My mum wouldn't admit but she is struggling and I want to talk to her soon about getting stuff in place. Any advice very welcome!!!
