My very active, fit and healthy husband was diagnosed with CUP out of the blue last August with 6 months to live. After chemo and radiotherapy earlier this year which were brutal but did significantly reduce tumours and prevent them spreading in his body, my husband collapsed and had seizures 10 days ago. It was awful, I was so afraid he was dying then and there. Rushed to A&E, and CT revealed 3 brain tumours had developed despite the treatment. He's now on massive doses of steroids and anti-epileptic drugs which have brought brain swelling down and improved how he's feeling. But he's still very slow processing information and doing anything complex. They have now offered whole brain radiotherapy as the only remaining treatment. The side-effects sound horrendous. I feel desperate, like there's a choice of losing him sooner perhaps, but having time with him relatively well and himself, of having him for longer but potentially brain damaged. If i talk to him about my anxieties and fears it sounds like I'm persuading him to give up on life. Bus as this situation has gone on, his understanding of what I'm going through has diminished and now seems to have no impact on decisions... has anyone been through anything similar?
