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Hi Matt, 

You're family has been in my thoughts and prayers. I hope your dad is still going strong and the children are managing well despite losing so much of their innocence. I'm sorry for the slow update but things have progressed this end and I've only just managed to find a way to articulate it to you. 

Despite Dad being told his prognosis was months just a month ago, upon our return from the weekend away he was admitted to hospital with an infection. We had told the children his prognosis on the Monday, yet by the Friday he was told the infection was untreatable and if he wanted to be at home, it was time to do so. 

Dad had just under a week at home before he died peacefully last Thursday evening. During his time at home all the children were able to spend time with him, hug him, talk to him and cry with him. I was with my siblings and my mum by Dad's bedside when he took his last breath after the children had all gone home to bed. 

Despite being upset and understandably tearful at times, none of the children were shocked by the news. Although instinct makes us want to protect our children, I believe the opportunity to spend time with Dad and go through the process with us was a positive one for them. They knew he wasn't in pain, and wasn't scared. 

None of us will know for sure what the pasting impact on the children will be, but I feel confident we got it as right for them as we could in such difficult circumstances. They're now all able to be a part of the funeral arrangements too. 

I hope and pray that you're not at this stage yet. But I also hope that our experience can reassure you a little that when the time comes it's possible to make the best of it. 

Sending love and strength x

Hi, I am so sorry to hear of the death of your dad, I actually cried reading your message thinking about your mum, siblings your children and yourself. At least your dad got to be at home surrounded by his loved ones, nothing I say will make things better  but you all got to spend time with you’re dad the children also, my dad has got visibly  worse, lost more weight, yellow/grey tint to his skin, sleeping more. He had a fall on Sunday and has broke his ribs gashed his arms and cut his face but refused to go to hospital as he is scared, my worry is if pneumonia sets in. The nurse came out to see him and patched him up and gave his some liquid morphine to take. 
Im sending my love to your family and yourself at this hard time x