Dad dying of oesophageal cancer

Dad passed away peacefully today at 10:35am. We were 30mins too late to be with him. The nurse said he took one long last breath and was gone, under the ‘sleeping’ medicine in the syringe pump. The man we saw laying there today was my Dad but not my Dad. His hands so cold. His big beautiful hands. Be with your friends, family and pets who have passed on, Dad. I will imagine you with them now.

I am relieved for him that his pain and struggle are over. I am relieved too for Mum and my sister that this is over.

My beautiful, loving Dad. We will miss you forever. 

I’ll probably stop writing here now. My heart goes out to anyone struggling with oesophageal or any other cancer. Or if you are caring for someone with it. I hope my experiences may help someone, though I don’t want them to upset anyone, as I have always said. 

Thank you for all your kind words. 

Lots of love to you all, Rest in Peace your lovely Dad xx

Thank you so much for sharing your journey these past few months. I have shed a tear for you all. My mum got diagnosed at the same time as your dad but is still doing remarkably well despite being 90!  Your experiences have really helped me prepare for what's to come. It such a sad way for a long life to end. You have been a wonderful daughter and advocate and I hope now the lifetime of  memories of your lovely dad will outshine the memories of these past few months. I send you and your family very best wishes. 

Sending lots of love to you all xx 

So sorry for you and all your family, you have shared your feelings along this horrible road, but we have felt your love and caring for your wonderful Dad. You have also been caring for your mum and sister. you are a credit to your parents. Remember the good times outway the bad, keep memories close. Thinking of you all x 

Thank you. All the best to you and your mum. xxx

I am so sorry to hear this. Your attitude and strength is so inspiring. Thank you for your words the other day, a letter might be just what I need. Even if I don't share it just yet. I hope you continue writing in some way, you have a wonderful way with words - natural talent. I hope I can be as brave and gracious as you when it's my Dads turn. 

Sending all my love to you all xxxx

Share your letter as soon as you can. xxx 

One of my Dad’s favourite songs (Matt Munro)… 

https://youtu.be/XGL0eKIGcZY?si=AavG6lI8rtnr3oMu

Softly, I will leave you softly, 
For my heart would break if you should wake and see me go,
So I leave you softly, long before you miss me,
Long before your arms can beg me stay
For one more hour or one more day.
After all the years I can't bear the tears to fall so
Softly, as I leave you there.
Softly, I will leave you softly, 
For my heart would break if you should wake and see me go,
So I leave you softly, long before you miss me,
Long before your arms can beg me stay
For one more hour or one more day.
After all the years I can't bear the tears to fall so
Softly, as I leave you there…

Ooh I am so so sorry for your loss. I have been following your posts while going through exactly some of the same emotions.

I felt we were on the same journey at the same stage too. My dad also passed peacefully on Thursday so I truly sympathise with you.

Much love xxx

My deepest condolences to you. This is so hard, isn’t it, and it continues. And probably will forever, I imagine. All my love to you and yours who are grieving and dealing with the funeral etc. xxx