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End of life signs

Darling34
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Hi I know this is going to be a very hard subject for someone to speak about so I completely understand if no-one wants to answer it but I thought I would try my mum was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in December not that long really feels like forever now but now I think she is nearing the end of her journey the signs are there I think. She is extremely weak in bed 24 hours can't walk to the toilet now doesn't eat at all she has a driver fitted for pain relief it's horrendous to see what cancer has done to her and I'm broken but I am doing my best my mum is at home at that is where she is staying I am doing all the care except obviously the driver which the district nurses do. I am making her end of life journey as peaceful and pain free as I can. I just really want to know if this is end of life signs as I don't know how long this will last Im looking for someone who has or is experiencing this to know if this the actual end of life as I don't really know what it looks like. Thank you 

  • in reply to Louise8321

       

    Sending hugs to all, thank you for your replies too. It is absolutely heart-breaking, its so difficult for all involved and it does have a big impact on mental health. You just don't know where to turn or who to ask. Without this sounding wrong I am glad I came across this thread, to be able to talk to people going through similar it certainly is one hell of a journey xxxx

  • in reply to IrisRainbow

    Yes thank you to everybody here for sharing your thoughts and feelings whilst going through such a personal and emotionally devastating experience. While the road ahead scares me, it is unavoidable, and this thread has really helped mentally prepare me.

    Love and hugs to you all.

  • in reply to Mav

    Hi thank you for your reply I am so glad that's it's helped you even a little bit through this awful journey. It helps me to as I want to know real people's experiences people who are going or been through exactly what I am right now it's a journey nobody wants to be on or should ever have to be on but we are and with out real life stories I would be completely in the dark.

  • in reply to IrisRainbow

    Hi there thank you for your comments I'm glad it's helping you even in a small way. It is one hell of a journey that we never ever wanted to be on. My mum is very confused today was up screaming all night asking to see people she hasn't seen in years so I think we have hit another stage in this long journey death certainly isn't easy or quick as of yet anyway. It's the hardest thing iv ever had to do but I wouldn't be able to do it with out all your experiences that have helped me know what to expect as this really is completely into the unknown and everyone's journey is different. Xx

  • in reply to Darling34

    Oh dear darling34, its sounds awful for both of you. I'm so so sorry. I'm very grateful for you sharing your journey and feelings. 

    We have called palliative care again today, my Dad has pain today (I cannot bear to think of him in pain), he also cannot breathe (so awful to witness) they are coming to assess him for a hospice (he wants and has chose this) he's terrified of pain and death. What a horrible horrible ride we are all on. I'm again sending a massive hug xx

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