What do I do

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Hi everyone

My lovely dad has had a whirlwind few months, whilst on holiday he developed a cough which led to a collapsed lung, they gave a radiological diagnosis of lung cancer. He then had a fall and because he's on blood thinners they did a ct scan, this led to a diagnosis of brain cancer and bone cancer.

Thankfully he has no pain, but is confused and scared.

I'm just getting over my mum having bowel cancer (in remission) and now this. I'm an only child from a small family and i don't know how to balance full time work, caring for my husband and children and looking after my parents.

I want to make the most of our time, but i don't know how. Any ideas?

Missclarabo over 1 year ago

I’m so sorry you’re having to go this. I’m currently processing the news that my mum has incurable cancer. Like you I want to make the days count. However my mums mobility and wellness restricts what we can do.

we plan to go through old photos together, talking about experiences we’ve enjoyed together. watch favourite movies together. Maybe take a run in the car- even if we don’t get out- but go to the coast to sit by the water and watch the waves.

can you plan something similar? Watch reruns of his team playing football (if that’s his thing), or other sports events. Listen to music together, read to him.

I’m realising that there doesn’t need to be any grand gestures or big things planned. The joy can come from the little things- the mundane, the ordinary but these are the real things that keep the person we’ve always had close to us,

take care

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