Hi,
I'm new to this group, my dad was diagnosed with cancer 2 years ago, he had an operation and all was looking good,
Last week he just wasn't feeling good, he was admitted into hospital and they done tests and scans , yesterday we got the news that his cancer has come back and it's aggressive, we still don't know the full details yet but it is terminal and there isn't any more they can do.
I'm just all over the place with emotions , I feel numb , I just don't know how I'm going to cope, Im on and off crying all the time, Im just walking around not knowing what to do with myself. I feel empty, I just want to sleep because when I'm asleep the pain goes, I just don't know how to deal with this, I just want to talk to someone that understands, does this pain get easier? How do you get through this?
Thankyou in advance
Hi Eaaaaama
a warm welcome to the group and apologies that no one has replied to your message sooner. So sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis. Life is cruel and nothing prepares for you for hearing that news.
My husband was given a terminal diagnosis (stage 4 brain tumour) in Sept 2020 so I can empathise with what you are going through. In those first few weeks immediately after his diagnosis I went through every emotion in the book and cried oceans. But you know what, its natural and its ok to show your emotions. You are going through a journey here too and its a rollercoaster ride.
In time I feel it does get a little easier as you work your way through these initial feelings and get your head round things. Please remember there is no right or wrong way to feel here. We're all unique human beings and we react differently. Its' the strongest and most resilient who show their emotions though so please don't be too hard on yourself
This group is very supportive so I'm confident that other members will comment shortly. There's always someone around here who gets it, someone to listen and someone to offer a virtual hug when its needed.
It’s always good to talk so please remember you can also call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, emotional support, benefit and financial guidance or just a listening ear.
For now I'm sending you a huge virtual hug. Stay strong. You're coping so much better than you give yourself credit for (you'll just need to trust me on that.)
love n hugs
Wee Me xx
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