My lovely Dad was diagnosed with lung cancer and metastatic brain cancer at the end of October and the doctor said at the time that his life expectancy was probably only a few months...everyone I try and talk to about it can't understand why I am so devastated about it..."he is 93 and has had a good life" ...yes of course this is true and I know it's the natural way of things that your parents die before you but I can't seem to come to terms with it. It overshadows everything, I think about it constantly and struggle to cope with everyday things...
Why can't I accept this and get ready to say goodbye to him and let him go?
Hi Daktari and sorry to hear about your dad.
Don't be so hard on yourself. It can take time to come to terms with it. Of course everybody else will say those rational things because to them he's "your dad", no attachment. Perhaps they wouldn't have the same view if it was their dad, they would be noticeably more upset, perhaps.
It's understandable for news like that to be a shock.
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