My Dad ️

I am so sorry for your sad and your whole family must be such a terrible shock. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to digest this information I would work from home today if you can. Wish I had some words of advice or comfort but sending you a big hug. Xxx  

Thank you so much for replying. I am going to work from home this morning. It’s such a shock and hard to digest. In situations like this there are just no words that can help are there. It’s just nice to know I have a place to come where I can vent and the people who are listening can understand where I am coming from. Sending a hug back

Do you mind me asking what brings you to the forum? 

Aw so glad you decided to stay at home. Sadly my dad who was a very fit man for his age had a wonderful life with mum was diagnosed with asbestos cancer which sadly is inoperable and very aggressive. They offered him 3 chemo but it has battered him he so sad and his life has changed and any quality of life is disappearing by the day. He had his scan to see if the chemo is helping to stabilise but he has gone downhill emotionally too. Heartbreaking. We have a meeting at the end of the week but think it’s not good news as they cancelled the telephone meeting and also he has started with more symptoms. I like you try to stay positive and strong but it gets harder every day. God love our dads!  We have gone from zero to a hundred in weeks. Make as many memories as you can and spend as much time as you can but also take care of you. You are a wonderful daughter and I am sure that is a blessing to him. Will be thinking of you all xxx 

Hi, am so sorry for your news. Yesterday my ex husband (still on good terms), our 3 beautiful children and myself  sat together to hear news that his aggressive bowel cancer has spread even further despite last ditch attempt with another brutal round of chemo and nothing more can be done - probably has weeks as water on lungs. My eldest son 28 has recently become a father himself and is devastated that his baby son will never know his wonderful Grandad. My ex Mum in Law lost her husband to same cruel aggressive bowel cancer that’s now going to end her son’s life! We can’t stop crying and don’t know how we gonna get through this! Life is so cruel - hope you get your wedding sorted and grab every moment - sending huge cyber hugs xx

Hi Amy. 
Just wanted to reach out and check in. Have you had the meeting yet? 
do let me know how it goes. Sending love to you all x 

I am so sorry to hear this. The pain you must all be going through. How heartbreaking for you all. And his poor mum. How must she be feeling! Have you had support from hospice nurses at all? Is he at home? Sending love and hugs. Xx

Hi hope you ok. Thank you for asking lovely.  Hi Yes didn’t go brilliant there chemo not worked abs their has been progression so that’s the end of the chemo. Poor dad and mum and I she’s some tears then the consultant said they could offer some palliative immunotherapy starting in a couple of weeks. Grabbing every last chance and praying for a miracle. He not very strong so just praying he can handle it and it works as every day is precious. Been so low but but my brave knickers on in front of parents. It’s so cruel. Sending you a if hug. Xxxx 

Hi Yes I am struggling too with the dilemma of whether to keep on the brave face and when to cry openly. So hard when other life is still there around us - work etc

Hi Vixic I am so sorry for your pain. I have all the same conflicts about how to deal with the pain while supporting both dad who had bladder cancer and mum who is so full of life but now his carer. Courage and hope your wedding can be brought forward for a happy day. 

Aw bless you. One thing I decided is dad knows me more than anyone so he knows I will have a little moment and I decided to try to be strong but not beat myself up if I slip occasionally. Big hugs to you. Also apologies I am the worst at typing ! Xxx