It was only 4 weeks ago now my grandfather was rushed into hospital feeling unwell
Yesterday we found out he was terminally ill with about 6 months left to live and I feel like my whole world has crashed down. Watching him detoriate as quickly as he has is horrible as he was probably one of the fittest healthiest people I know so seeing that decline is gut Wrenching as I can't explain it to people
How can I tell my friends this is happening as I don't know how to start the conversation. I don't want all the pity messages and people asking me day in day out how I am as I don't want to be reminded that this is happening... but I also feel so so alone sometimes as I don't want to upset my family talking about all this...
Does anyone have any advice for this? I stuggle to relax at night as I'm always terrified that something happens and even for an hour at night I just want to be able to relax and allow myself to have some normalcy.
Hi Radio
You explain very well the difficulties we all experience when we hear the news that tells us someone we love is terminally ill. I am so sorry that this has happened to you and your family. You are very welcome to the forum and in case you would like to talk to others in another forum, can I suggest that you pop in HERE
I don't know what your grandfather's diagnosis is, so I am unable to offer advice in that area, but what I will say is, it has been my experience that speaking openly about my feelings and my concerns, discussing the diagnosis that loved ones have been given, has been the lifeline that has seen me through.
Many people are frightened of upsetting other's and sometimes we do, but most of the time, I have found that people are prepared to talk, as much for their benefit as for yours.
Concern is often recognised as pity, so let people know and ask that they limit their "how are you" How is he" questions, but to be there, if they can through some of the days ahead.
I hope in the past few days you have already learnt to process what you have been told and have been finding your own coping mechanisms along the way
Take Care
Lowe
