Near The End for My Mum

so sorry to here your news  i was just thinking the same as you about joining the forum  im 52 though and should be much more together but im not either  im sure its perfectly normal to feel so upset and i feeel exactly the same about my mum  your being very brave reaching out to others on here and im sure you will get more practical advice and help on this site  i hope you get to spend some time with your mum now im sure she loves you very much and doesnt want to leave you either.  God bless 

Hiya Sweetheart, I'm so sorry that you, your mum and your family are going through this hell on earth. Talking about your feelings and how much you love your mum is the way forward. Ask at school, or if dad can afford it privately then see a counsellor.

If you would like to chat to me - I am a mum of 4, but I understand that you have had all the online talk at school and I could be anybody - but I swear that I am who say I am. My dad was killed in an accident when I was 14 and my mum died of cancer. I know a lot about grief. My name is Victoria.

Thinking of you x

Hi, I'm 35 but going through the same thing as you. My Mum was diagnosed with peritoneal cancer in Dec 2019 and at first things looked positive, until she took a turn for the worse in June 2020, then we were no longer talking about beating it, we were talking about prolonging life. Numerous different chemos later (one of which left her with no feeling in her hands and feet so took away all of her independence and has left her using a wheelchair) we were told in March this year that there was no other treatment they could offer her and her cancer was just too aggressive. She is now at home with just palliative care and she doesn't have long left. It has been the most heartbreaking experience watching her become thinner and thinner and so weak. I too feel very numb and also like it is isn't real and that there may also be hope, when I know there isn't really. It is so hard to come to terms with isn't it? And you guys are so young too, it is really so cruel. I hope you get the support you need. I have suffered with depression and anxiety in the past, so when Mum had her finally diagnosis I reached out to Talking Therapies. They don't offer grief counselling or specific support with coping with terminal illness or grief, but they have given me a platform to talk to someone about my low mood and anxiety and I'm working through a high intensity CBT programme and it does help. It is a free service and definitely worth exploring - they are all so nice and it is so much easier to talk to them than your family, who are also trying to cope. I hope that helps, take care x