Hello new here,
So I found out last week that my gran has stage 4 stomach cancer. Honestly I don't know what else to say. She's always been there for me in my life and right now I am 5 hours away at university trying to finish my PhD. She doesn't want me to come visit because she doesn't want to interrupt my studies but at the same time I know things aren't going well for her at the moment.
I am very worried because she's struggling as are the rest of my family and they are getting stressed at her for not eating or drinking and everyone is venting it all at me at the moment. Whereas I am trying to be as supportive and encouraging to her as possible but also never get to talk to her alone as to gauge how she is actually doing. I also really don't want to lose here but at the same time don't want her to feel forced to fight if she doesn't want to. Plus my family is not big on mental health and while I am trying to argue for her to be allowed to see once of the mental health nurses provided for her it's just like hitting a brick wall with the people who are actually there at home to oversee her care/support.
Honestly everything is a lot right now and I am just entirely unsure about what to do.
Sorry for the rant but yeah, if anyone is going through/has been through something similar I would be eternally grateful for your advice/support.
Hey NovaSinopa
Welcome to the forum, I realise that is has been a while since you posted this here, but have noticed also that you have had some replies in other forums which is great.
I am sorry that you nan has been diagnosed with stage 4 stomach cancer, this must be quite a shock for you and all the family, and as you are experiencing, everyone reacts differently in these situations.
I don't know how old nan is, or whether she lives with the rest of your family or she always has them around or finally whether she is having any treatment for the cancer, My Dad had stomach cancer, but was quite elderly, he was treated with radiotherapy.
I hope that you have managed to speak to Nan since you have written this..
Sending strength to you all
Lowe'
