Feelings of detachment

FormerMember over 3 years ago

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My partner was diagnosed with terminal cancer over 2 years ago. She is strong and she is amazing.
However I am struggling emotionally with the fallout.

After our initial joint grieving I am left with an emptyness, loneliness and detachment. Every day it feels like a little bit more of me dies inside but I am not the one dying....... guilt!

Its like we are living in a limbo land waiting for the inevitable outcome.

The feelings are exacerbated as we were so close, caring and loving. Now its a 3 way relationship with cancer robbing me of our intimacy Has anyone felt and dealt with the same?

panic over 3 years ago

Hi Dunci Bee,

I think, at some point, every cancer carer and every cancer patient goes through this to some degree.

Cancer is an insidious bastard with the mindset of a self-centred toddler. Every day, it tries to become the barrier between the patient and the carer, demanding everyone's total focus.

Never forget that, although you may have the worlds best oncologists, specialists, doctors and nurses - the two most important people in this fight are you and your loved one. As much as the medical world and cancer try to make the disease the focus, you need to remember that the woman you love is still in there.

Talk to her and let her know how it is impacting you and listen to her when she tells you how it is impacting her.

Hang in there mate.

Peace
Ewen :-)

The day after your journey ends, the sun will still rise.

As will you.

FormerMember over 3 years ago

Ewen

Sage words indeed and thankyou for the reminder of the important things !

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