Hi everyone I am writing this with great difficulty as my eyes are streaming with tears... I found out yesterday that my only sibling has terminal cancer. He is my younger brother and is only 44 but the hardest part is he only has weeks left to live and he is a two hour journey away from his family, we did manage to see him today but his pain was so severe he was struggling to talk to us. I just can't stop crying I keep going over how I will cope without ever seeing him again or hearing his voice and I have this feeling of pain so great it takes my breath please tell me how to cope with the enormous sadness that just floods my every waking hour
Hi Lisalou 22
Thank you for being so very brave and reaching out to us here, you are very welcome although I fully understand that this is the last place that you wanted to find yourself, I wanted you to know that we are here and we are listening.
I am so sorry to read that your younger brother and only sibling has terminal cancer, and also that he may only have weeks left to live. I always feel that the loss or imagined loss of a younger sibling causes a similar heart-breaking experience of that of losing a child, younger siblings are for many their first real friend their first baby, their first true love, their first experience of being a carer, and of keeping someone safe, so I understand the enormous sadness that floods through your every waking hour, and with your Brother being a two hour journey away from you, it makes things harder still
To see your Brother in so much pain on visiting him the other day, and his difficulty in trying to talk with you must have been heart-breaking for all of you.. (hugs)) there are so few words which can be said at this time, my thoughts are with you.
I don't know what type of cancer your brother has, or whether you are looking for areas of support, or whether you wanted a place to write your feelings down. But if you need any further support or advice please let us know, there are many areas on this site, different supportive forums like Family and Friends and places offering advice like this LINK , if you need any more help or just want to rant, please know we are here.
Thinking of you
Lowe'
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