Hello all, I’m after some advice.
I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years, we have our own house together. He got poorly last year and unfortunately is losing his fight. We were told by doctors that he has ‘weeks’ to live. He been out of hospital for 3 weeks and have recently starting to deteriorate.
May reason for my post is for advice... since leaving hospital his mum has been over everyday for several hours at a time, and most recently been staying with us. She often walks straight into our bedroom and sits next to him, which I can understand. But I’m finding myself being constantly irritated by her always being here, always being in my private space and not allowing me to spend time with him. I don’t know what to say to her without upsetting her, but I’m in desperate need of some space. We have the hospice at home team coming to stay with us tonight and I feel like she doesn’t need to be here at this moment. What do I say? Please help
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that you have recently been told that your boyfriend only has weeks to live. It must be a very difficult time for you both and my heart goes out to you.
It's natural that both you and his mum want to spend as much time as possible with your boyfriend. Perhaps one way around your predicament would be to agree between you times when you spend time with your boyfriend on your own, ie his mum in the morning, you in the afternoon, etc. You could also gently suggest to her that once the evening comes then she can't just walk into your bedroom but needs to knock first and wait to be invited in. I'm sure she'll realise that you need to have time alone with your boyfriend if you can talk to her about it.
Sending a virtual ((hug))
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