Hi
My father has been given 1 yr to live after kidney cancer spread to liver, I get this is an average but want to start planning for when the covid palaver is over & done with. We're both hard/stoical northerners so the emotional side isn't an issue thankfully.
Please can I ask what I should be thinking of doing to help, support, make his time left fun or whatever, he lives quite a distance from me so its not like I can pop round often but does have a lovely partner who is a good carer.
Any suggestions welcome (as mine are usually unsuitable or inappropriate for an 80 yr old!).
Thanks
Sam
Hi Sam
I've very sorry to read that your father has been given a one year prognosis after his kidney cancer was found to have spread to his liver and it's natural that you'd want to find ways to support him and to make his life enjoyable.
Macmillan has some good information about caring for someone at home which you might find useful. It includes useful information on how to make changes at home and also what equipment might make your dad and his partner's lives easier and how to go about obtaining it. There is also a section on getting support as a carer which your dad's partner might find useful.
As for what 'fun' things you might do with him, well I personally think that depends what he enjoys doing. I realise that's not very helpful but I'd just do with him whatever he currently enjoys, whether that's going for a walk, sitting doing a jigsaw, looking through old photos, watching a film together with a bowl of popcorn, etc. You could also ask his partner if there's anything he'd particularly like to do and try and arrange to do that.
x
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