I am broken today. This has been the hardest day of mine and my families lives and I just don’t know if I’m strong enough to deal with what is going to happen over the coming months or years.
My dad had stomach pains last week and was sick. Sent to A&E, sent for an mri, 5 days later, today, we got the news, it’s pancreatic cancer, inoperable and has spread to blood vessels. Chemo will start soon but it’s looking bad. He is only in his early 50s.
He has a wife, my amazing stepmum, who is only 42 and looking at being a Carer and loosing her husband, I have 2 half sisters who are only 9 and 6. How are we going to explain this to the little ones?! The youngest is clueless and won’t understand the enormity of it. Will she even remember him?! The thought of them growing up without a dad is breaking me and I just need to find some kind of hope that we can cure this, but I might be being naive. I don’t know what questions to ask or what to even google, I just stare at the words as I type them in and cry.
I am 24, I still have all of my grandparents, my dad was fit and healthy last week and now we going to face loosing him in the cruelest of ways. Sending love to all of you going through this. And during corona... you all must be so strong.
Dear EmRose
I am so sorry to hear of your Dad's diagnosis, it is always a shock no matter the cancer or the age, but more so when little people are going to be affected by the diagnosis....I just wanted to stay you do have the strength.. but also, although Dad has been advised that his condition is inoperable there are things that can be done to slow things down.
My husband is in his early 50's he has incurable oesophageal cancer and only six months ago was diagnosed and advised that he had months or months and months.....it is not the same diagnosis as your Dad, but the shock and the fear is similar.... we have a blog on here called Facing the Future Together...we talk about the antioxidant smoothies which initially were made daily to help fight the negative in his system. He is very well at present, his treatment and his positive belief that he will beat this incurable disease it what is working for him...
I know first hand how hard it is to keep positive with the news you have received hanging over you...but if you can, if you can focus, and fight together as a family along with the medical intervention, anything good can happen.
Thinking of you and your family at this time......
Lowe'
