A year on

Hi Eldest daughter , I’m sorry to hear of your Dad and his latest scan results. I know you feel the next few weeks will be tough and how you really want to help your Dad, I hope you are able to plan in some ‘me’ time for you and some nice hand holding or cuddles with your Dad.

Take care

Thankyou very much for your reply.Dad is home, care x4 a day .My brother and myself taking turns in sleepovers, but even as the week has progressed Dad is waking up more in the night.District nurses are comming tomorrow and say   they will refer to Marie curie to see if chance  of any night's but said it's very difficult to get a slot with them .Fingers crossed 

hi Eldest daughter , i'm so sorry to hear about your dad and i understand the pain you are going through as my dad has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and has been told he has a couple months. i know how tough this is as my dad has now moved downstairs to sleep in a hospital bed and now relies fully on his family to help to the shopping ect. its the hardest thing to accept what is happening and like me as well the thought of losing your dad is heartbreaking but i do hope you can give yourself some time for "me time" as me personally has found it so important. i can see how strong you are and that you are doing the best you can for your dad so please don't hesitate to message me if you want someone to speak to xxxx

Thankyou so much for your kind message have not been on since I wrote that post. 

We looked after dad for 3 weeks at home ,with myself and brother covering night's still working full time , which as the days moved on turned out to be more waking than sleeping night's. 

Marie Curie answered  our call and in those 3 weeks we had 7 Marie curie night's which didn't just take the strain off us .Which isent a selfish act but just let us boost our self up for that last hard climb.Dad in  his way appreciated the Marie Cure as he knew he could chat all night if he wanted to.

I knew dad was near the end when little physical changes began to happen .It got to on day I phoned in work and said I'm off now for foreseeable. My little bro followed my lead and we sat with dad for 48 hrs not once was he on his own.Care company were sending in only the highest experienced staff so dad did not get any newbies pulling him around .

Dad passed away in peace at home with us all there with two grandaughters holding his hand ,but us aĺl in the room.

I stayed with him and did what I needed to do until he left his home of 42 years. 

I kept going for the first month now my grief is comming out in physical symptoms. 

Business to find the bereavement group but as they have changed the format that is a job  for another day

Hello Eldest daughter , I’m sorry to hear of your loss, but glad to hear his passing was a peaceful one. You mentioned the bereavement group I am hoping the link Bereaved family and friends forum will help you find it more easily when you want to. In memory cancer forum is perhaps another group.

Take care