Feelings and emotions

I would guess many people go through the same reaction when hearing about an uncurable cancer for the first time. I know I did the same thing when I found out my mother's diagnosis. We all cried together. As time went by, it was much easier to but on a strong face when in my mother's presence but I continued to grieve privately off and on during the two and a half years until the battle was lost. 

Everyone is difference and for me, I found that sharing about my mother helped in my grieving. I keep a journal and wrote down my feelings and thoughts while going through that time period in my life, almost always with tears in my eyes. But once I had it written on paper, I felt stronger afterwards. I also had a spouse that was a good listener when I needed to talk. 

My mother didn't like to talk about IT or the future and so we pretty much just did our daily things. But we did see each other more often, never parted without hugs and tried to focus on making a lot of memories over those two and a half years. Now a year and a half after she passed away, I look back at that time after the diagnosis and all those memories and smile a lot. I almost feel blessed that we knew the end was near but had time to make goodbyes when others get loved ones taken away in an instant. 

Sorry that you are now in this club that nobody wants to join. But know that you aren't alone and your feelings have been felt by others.

Hi 

I am sorry to hear what your going through. My mum has incurable cancer to. We found out about a year ago. I have gone through many emotions as I am sure you are to. Here if you want to chat. 
Hannah. 

Hi, Thank you for your reply. I'm sorry to hear bout your mum. I'm trying not to cry and stay strong but this is stronger than me. Every time I think about it tears starting running down my face, it is not something I want to of course but I just can't stop it. My mum doesn't want to talk about it just like yours. When I came to see my mum yesterday she was the one trying to calm me down saying that we can't do anything about it, we can't change it and that we have to live with it. It should be the opposite, it should have been me telling her this. The problem with me is that I'm very sensitive person ( well too sensitive I would say ) so I'm taking everything ten times worse than my other 4 sisters. As you said that you tried to do the most and make the most of the memories with your mum, myself and my sisters started planning things too. I took my mum for pedicure and manicure today to try and make her feel bit better, she was happy with it. I've planned Valentine's dinner out for my parents too, even though my mum is not keen to do anything neither go anywhere but we will try our best to do as much as we can with her to make the most off it. I joined this group as I believe that it will help me go through this especially that here are the people who are / were on the same boat so they can share their experience and maybe we can help each other somehow that way. I wish you all the best xx

Hi, Thank you for your reply. Yes I am going through a lot of emotions and I can barely cope with this. I'm hoping that I will start feeling better after joining this group and sharing my experience with others. It is really hard time for me and my family but I seem to be the only one from my family that took it the worst. If it's possible, please can you tell me how you started getting better emotionally? I wish you and your mum all the best xx

Hi Anita my husband has eosaphageal cancer told not curable I can’t come to terms with was only told Friday xx

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about  your husband and that you have had to join this group. I understand that you can't come to terms with, it's definitely something no one wants to hear. I hope that you, your family and especially your husband have enough strength to go through this. I'm here if you want or need to talk. I will add you as a friend so maybe you can message me when you want  xx