My partner

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My partner was diagnosed with terminal cancer over 2 years ago. She is strong and she is amazing. 
  However I am struggling emotionally with the fallout.

After our initial joint grieving I am left with an emptyness, loneliness and detachment. Every day it feels like a little bit more of me dies inside but I am not the one dying....... guilt!

Its like we are living in a limbo land waiting for the inevitable  outcome.

The feelings are exacerbated as we were so close, caring and loving. Now its a 3 way relationship with cancer robbing me of our intimacy  Has anyone felt and dealt with the same?

  • Hi  and warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your partners diagnosis and ongoing challenges.

    A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be challenging in so many ways but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer journey will help you navigate this difficult time.

    The Community is organised into specific support groups so can I recommend you join our supportive Carers only and supporting someone with incurable cancer group groups as you will connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.

    To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.

    You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'. 

    It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.

    Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.

    ((hugs))

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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