Hi all, I have only recently found out that my mum has cancer, which started in the lungs and has now spread around her body. I am feeling quite alot of anger as she has been in and out of hospital from November, has had pneumonia, blood clots etc and had various xrays and scans and was told it was a possibility it could be cancer but then told it wasn't, now to be told yes actually it is and now it's progressed too far and there is nothing they can do apart from keep her comfortable. She has deteriorated quite quickly and can no longer get around without oxygen and her bedroom is now downstairs. It's so upsetting to see and I am trying to be strong for her. How do family members cope with the guilt of having to work and be a parent and a wife and do as much as you can when you are available?
Hi and warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis in the family like this can be very challenging in so many ways but when it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from talking with others caring for family so do check out our Carers only and supporting someone with incurable cancer groups as you will connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
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It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
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