New Member, New diagnosis

Hi  and a warm welcome to the online community

I'm very sorry to read that your mother has recently been diagnosed with inoperable pancreatic cancer and I can understand why  you want a safe space.

The online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group which is a safe and supportive place for carers, friends and families of people with an incurable diagnosis to discuss their emotions.

To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'. 

It would be great if you could pop something about your mother's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.

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Hi Siobsi. Sorry to hear about your mum. I lost my father to cancer and shell-shocked is exactly how I felt when I found out. My thoughts are with you.

Thanks Norwich47 It really feels like something I need to say somewhere. Because we're so busy trying to be strong for my Mum, that there really isn't the space to fall apart. And yet the Living Grief has started. So sorry to hear about your loss too. 

I hope you are doing ok.

Thanks . I am way better since my two sisters landed here. They released my mum from hospital after a fortnight on Friday. Sent her home with 13 diff. meds. And NO instructions at all. We were having to look up a YouTube video to work out how to administer morphine with a syringe. It's taken 3 of us the weekend to get on top of meds. But we're supporting each other through the chaos. Thank you for your kindness.

I have a sister and its good to have them around.  It sounds very stressful so make sure you look after yourself. I know when my dad was very ill that I became paranoid about getting his meds wrong and finding it all really hard. Xxx

Yes, it seems a big responsibility but we're getting there. We keep insisting each other take time out each day for self care. Sisters are wonderful.