My friend has just been dx with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. It's spread to her bones. This is her third time with cancer. The first time I was as supportive as I could be. The second time I didn't have a lot to do with my friend during that time due to just life. This time I am absolutely devastated and I just don't know what to do or say. I don't want to be too emotional as that's not all that supportive and really she doesn't need to be making me feel better at a time like this does she!? But anything I think to say just seems so clichéd and must sound ridiculous to her. She's heard it all. She's seen people lose interest and avoid the topic and not be there when she really needed them. What can I possibly say or do that would genuinely be even slightly meaningful to this wonderful person had has suffered so unfairly?? So lost right now for her xxxx
Hi and warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your friends diagnosis. There is no instruction book in how anyone can navigate this..... I have been on my journey for over 21 years and it’s a rollercoaster at times.
A cancer diagnosis can be challenging in so many ways but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer support journey will help you navigate this difficult time.
The Community is organised into cancer specific support groups and I see you have joined and posted in our supportive Family and friends group as you will connect you with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support or just a listening ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
((hugs))
