My mum has been told she has terminal cancer. It started in her right kidney, spread to her lungs and bones. Since they have told us it’s in her spine and has eaten away 80% of a section of her spine. She’s 89 years old and frail. She’s declined treatment and an operation on her spine to insert a cage to support her, as a result is losing use of her arms and legs, bladder etc.
I can understand her not wanting the treatment at her age but it’s hard to see her like this. She is a very strong lady whom I admire immensely. We lost Dad to COVID in January and are still grieving. Mum said last night she doesn’t want to be here now she wants to be with dad, I’m heartbroken
Hi and warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis. This must be such a hard and challenging time for you and all the family and made worse with the lose of your dad, my deepest condolences.
Talking with others caring for family on this type of journey will help a lot so do check out our Carers only and supporting someone with incurable cancer group as you will connect with others walking the same journey supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
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It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
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