I lost my mum 5 months ago, all I can remember is the last couple of months of her life, I was with her every day for the last 5 weeks of her life when she took to her bed and hardly opened her eyes again, she was 90 but she would not give in, I prayed every night that should would just pass in her sleep, on the day she died my daughter and I went to her flat and when we went in the bedroom she had just passed away all by herself, the upsetting thing now for me is I can only think of these last weeks, when I try to think of her when she was healthy my mind goes blank, it won’t let me think of all the good times we had, is this normal.
Hi and warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about the passing of your mum. Do accept my sincere condolences.
I lost me mum back in November (not cancer) and they say time is a healer..... 6 months on I would say yes.
I was not with her when she passed away. I am in the COVID extremely vulnerable group and the hospital where she was had COVID issues so I was strongly advised not to go in...... a very hard decision at the time but looking back the correct decision for my family. She was 91, lived an independent life right up until a few days before she became ill and passed away peacefully, just we she wanted and indeed the family wanted.
Talking with others who are walking the same type of journey will help you navigate this challenging time.
The Community is organised into support groups so can I recommend you join our supportive Bereaved family and friends group as this will be a good place to connect with families navigating the same type of journey.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support or just a listening ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
((hugs))
