Hello. I am hoping to get some support and advice from people going though their cancer journeys.
My husband has very recently been diagnosed with kidney cancer with lung metastasis. It is still very early days and he has not yet started any treatment. We have seen the consultant who told us it is non curative but are waiting to see the oncologist in 2 weeks time to discuss treatment. Expecting more bad news as we know it is quite advanced.
He is acting pretty much as normal, just dealing with it, still going to work although he is clearly not well. I on the other hand can’t stop crying when I am on my own. I am holding it together in front of other people and my husband but it feels like I have already lost him and I am going through the grieving process even though we haven’t yet had the full prognosis.
How do you all cope with feeling so helpless. I am so used to just dealing with problems and sorting them out but this is beyond my control and I am struggling to come to terms with that.
Sorry to be so down, however, I am hoping that just by sharing my feelings it will help me to pull myself together.
Hi Gigi1973 and a warm welcome to the online community
I'm really sorry to read that your husband has been diagnosed with kidney cancer which has spread to his lung. Although I had a different type of cancer I know what a difficult time this will be for you both.
The online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend a few for you to join. The first are the kidney cancer and the secondary lung cancer groups which are great places to ask questions and share experiences about the type of cancer and also the type of treatment that your husband might have. The other group is the carers only group which is a safe and supportive place to share your worries and emotions.
To join any or all of these groups just click on the links I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your husband's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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You're very welcome
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