My mum is the kindest person I know. She was diagnosed with cancer a month ago. We thought she had initially got fractured hip and ribs from a fall she had not told us about. She saw the doctor and was rushed to hospital. Her gp said she had days. She was in hospital for one week one pain medication and were told they were not sure what it was but thought it was ovarian cancer. She came home and deteriorated and was not eating and being sick. She was taken into hospital again We were the told that she had cancer. It started in her uterus and spread in the blood to other parts of the her body affecting other organs. She has been in hospital nearly 2 weeks now and we haven’t been able to see her. The doctors said she could come home but then said she couldn’t because they hadn’t spoken to palative care or done the paperwork. She has now been moved to a room on her own where she can have visitors which means she has little time left. To my knowledge only pain management has been given and no treatment offered. I am angry for the cock up and the wasted time. She could have been at home with her family. Why does this crap happen. If there is a god why do this? I am also upset in worrying how my dad will cope as they have been together a long time.
Hi and welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
Cancer unfortunately can be very indiscriminate, totally unfair and very confusing. Some cancers can be very hard to diagnose and unfortunately delays do happen. So far I am a cancer survivor but I have lost many family members and friends to cancer so I do know how you feel at the moment.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family brings many questions and lots of confusion but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer support journey will help you navigate this challenging time.
The Community is organised into support groups so can I recommend you join our supportive Carers only and supporting someone with incurable cancer group groups as you will connect with others walking the same journey supporting family through their cancer journey.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
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