Hi All. I'm new to the site. My mom got diagnosed over a year ago with lung cancer stage 4. Spread from one lung to the other via the lymph nodes. Terminal.
Decided with the help of her oncologist that they are stopping treatment now. Cancer has grown and chemo will do more harm than good.
I am still trying to deal with this. I am trying to stay positive by saying she could still have years left. Then I think of people who I've lost recently to cancer of various types and I see how quickly they can go downhill and it gets me scared for the future.
I'm 41 and the thought of losing my mom makes me feel like a child. I'm not ready. I guess no one is ready but I just feel like it stops me breathing at times. My mom and dad don't like to talk about the cancer a lot. Mom recently gave me paperwork fir her funeral plan as they want me to b in charge when it happens and its upsetting me.
I don't know what to feel how to feel it. I already have depression and this is making it worse.
Hi Peachy655 and welcome to the online community
I'm sorry to read that your mum was diagnosed with lung cancer a year ago and that it has recently been decided to stop treatment. This must be a very difficult time for the whole family.
I can see that you've joined the family and friends group but you might also like to join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group where you can discuss your emotions as well as practical issues about palliative care. If you'd like to do this then clicking on the link I've created will take you straight there where once you've joined you can post in the same way as you did here.
You mentioned that you don't know how you should feel but there's really no right or wrong way to feel right now. It might help you to have a look through this information from Macmillan on your feelings when someone has cancer. You've also said that your mum's cancer diagnosis is making your depression worse so it might be an idea to speak to your GP as they can find ways to help you cope.
Sending a virtual ((hug))
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