Hi,
My 78 year old Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer ( lobular, triple negative) last Friday (Feb 26th) which has knocked all the family sideways. We are in a state of shock and frightened currently as to what the future holds. My Mum and Dad moved to live near to me and my husband 3 months ago from 200 miles away, so they have had no time to settle and obviously with Covid restrictions have not been able to orientate themselves at all. I am so worried for them and it is so hard to see them struggling.I have taken Mum to all her appointments so far to help as much as I can. We are waiting for a CT scan date so the extent of the cancer can be assessed and a treatment/management plan sorted. I am trying to be strong for my parents and my brother ( who lives out of the area ) but my mind keeps wandering to the worst. If any of you have any thoughts on how best to help them through this very tough time it would be appreciated. I am trying to keep a level head,but it is not easy as I am sure you will know.
Hi Bullfinch and welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although sorry that you needed to find us and especially sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis in the family brings many questions, confusion and lots of stress but talking with other people who are walking the same type of journey will help you navigate this rollercoaster.
The Community is organised into dedicated support groups so can I recommend you join our supportive Triple negative breast cancer group, this will be a good place to connect with others navigating the support of a family member on the same type of cancer journey.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
Talking with others caring for family and friends will help a lot so do check out our Family and friends, I see you have joined and our Carers only groups as you will connect with others walking the same journey supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
To find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers can be found on our Online Information and Support Section.
((hugs))
